3 Tips For Moving On After A Divorce

10 June 2015
 Categories: , Blog


Even after the divorce papers have been signed, you might still feel a strong sense of grief over the fact that you've lost someone that was important to you. This is a natural process and the sadness and guilt that you might feel will eventually lift. However, there are some actions that you can take to help yourself move on after your divorce and continue to live your life effectively.

1. Keep to a Routine

One of the easiest things to do when you're grieving is to lie in bed all day binge watching your favorite TV shows and ordering food to your house or apartment. This is great to do for a few days after your divorce in order to help you rest, but it's not an effective, long-term coping strategy. In order to continue moving forward in your recovery, you need to remind yourself what it's like to act normal again. Make a list of all of the things that you used to do every day for yourself before your divorce. This could include little things such as showering and shaving, going to the grocery store to buy food to cook for yourself, and just getting up out of bed and stretching.

Once you have several activities, write them down in a planner. Plan your day hour by hour, including work, sleep, personal hygiene time, and times that you want to got to the gym. Doing these normal activities will help you get into a routine. 

2. Start Something New

When you've lost something, you're going to want to make sure that you fill the hole in your life. Some people fill it with negative habits, such as smoking or drinking excessively. Instead of doing this, try taking up a new hobby, getting a dog, or committing to a new exercise program. Doing this will help you stay busy and keep your mind off of your divorce, as well as help you meet new people with similar interests.

3. Don't Be Afraid To Say No

You might feel like you need to please everyone in order to keep anyone else from leaving you, but your friends are going to care about you no matter what. Don't be afraid to say no if you think that something is going to not be the most helpful for you in the moment. This will help you feel like you have more control over your own life.

For more information, talk to a professional divorce attorney, like those at Eschbacher Law. He or she will have referral information for counselors and other professionals that will be able to help you cope with your divorce.